“We are seas mingling—we are two of those cheerful waves, rolling over each other, and interwetting each other…”
This wedding. Oh my god, how I love this wedding.
These two are Evan & Jordan, the most in love duo you could ever hope to meet… who will not make you want to roll your eyes & gag when you’re with them, but instead make you want to swoon & grab your nearest loved one. They are meant to be, and this little elopement on the beach was the perfect reflection of their love for each other.
Evan & Jordan planned this elopement on Kauai after deciding that a large wedding wasn’t for them. Just this last week, it was featured on Pacific Weddings, and I’d love for you to go read it because Jordan does a better job than I ever could telling about the reason why they decided to go with an elopement instead of a wedding. Everything they had hoped for, their wedding was.
When they asked me to photograph their small wedding, they also told me that they would be hiking the Na Pali Coast via the Kalalau Trail to Kalalau Beach in the days leading up to their wedding, and of course I said I would come along with that & could I bring Michael?! I’m going to blog a little bit about our time on the trail (one of the 20 most dangerous hikes in the world!), but for now I will say that it was the hardest but most rewarding thing I have ever done in my life, after giving birth & raising a child. And I dare say that it was almost harder than giving birth, or it was at least equivalent. Immediately upon coming off of our time on the Kalalau trail on that Monday morning, exhausted, we went straight to the rental house where their best friends were staying, where we were greeted with a huge hot meal (the best meal EVER, I’m sure) and lots of beers… and after showers & some minor preparations, we were ready to get them married the very next day.
We all woke up on November 17th, still recovering from our grueling hike, and then went about the day. It was a beautiful morning, and Jordan, her best friend Carmen, and I did a little local foraging for flowers before we headed to the beach for a swim… and then decided that that would be the beach where the wedding would happen. We then went back to the house, everyone got ready, and literally we walked back to the beach a couple of hours later & they were married on the beach. As their witnesses were their dear friends Carmen & Scott, Jordan’s brother Sam, their best friend Sean who married them, Michael, and me. As soon as they were married, we lounged on the beach with beers & champagne to wait out the sunset, and then headed back to the rental for a late night of food, drinks, and music.
It was incredible.
I think back on this day often, and with admiration I think of Evan & Jordan and how they have created this life for themselves based on their own desires, both together & separately. Since I’ve known them, I have seen the two of them manifest their dreams outwardly & with no fear, in the way with which I’d assume we all hope to live. From their home that they bought that has been lovingly transformed into a garden oasis of love & bounty, to the good people that they surround themselves with, and to this wedding that they thought out & planned with the simplicity that they had always hoped for. I’ve never met two people who speak each other’s love language so fluently, and spending a week with them on Kauai & being witness to the love they give, was truly one of the turning points in my life.
I want to say thanks again to Pacific Weddings for featuring this wedding (seriously, you should read the write-up that Jordan did!), and of course a huge Mahalo to Evan & Jordan for having me photograph their wedding… and to my husband Michael, who was with me during the peaks & valleys of our long hike together, like a metaphor for our life. I had never loved him more.
And I want to leave you with the poem that Sean read at their ceremony on the beach, “WE Two, How Long We Were Fool’d,” from the old tattered Walt Whitman book that his father had given him many years prior. This poem, for this wedding and for Evan & Jordan, is everything.
WE two, how long we were fool’d,
Now transmuted, we swiftly escape as Nature escapes,
We are Nature, long have we been absent, but now we return,
We become plants, trunks, foliage, roots, bark,
We are bedded in the ground, we are rocks,
We are oaks, we grow in the openings side by side,
We browse, we are two among the wild herds spontaneous as any,
We are two fishes swimming in the sea together,
We are what locust blossoms are, we drop scent around lanes mornings
We are also the coarse smut of beasts, vegetables, minerals,
We are two predatory hawks, we soar above and look down,
We are two resplendent suns, we it is who balance ourselves orbic
and stellar, we are as two comets,
We prowl fang’d and four-footed in the woods, we spring on prey,
We are two clouds forenoons and afternoons driving overhead,
We are seas mingling, we are two of those cheerful waves rolling
over each other and interwetting each other,
We are what the atmosphere is, transparent, receptive, pervious,
We are snow, rain, cold, darkness, we are each product and influence
of the globe,
We have circled and circled till we have arrived home again, we
We have voided all but freedom and all but our own joy.